With Valentine’s Romance in the air, social media is now starting to flood with selfies of couples basking in their romantic endeavors, and for many, this week will be the week when hopes rise in terms of a possible engagement.
That said, there are a number of reasons not to jump on the Valentine’s bandwagon, in order to make the engagement a more private and personal affair… and perhaps, going out and getting an engagement isn’t the right first step – maybe the more recent concept of a promise ring might be a better place to start.
At the end of the day, an engagement is little more than a committed promise that centres around the intention to be together forever. It’s something private and sacred between two people that psychologically adds a layer of additional commitment, but has no legal impact – it does however exclaim to the outside world that two people are committed to each other.
The symbolism of an engagement ring is very prominent in today’s society, with people being encouraged to spend 2-3 times their monthly salary on an engagement ring by friends, family, and advertising companies yet the reality is that you are exchanging a private promise that is between the two of you; an engagement should be an indicator of your commitment for each other not your bank balance.
Yet, for many people, the idea of searching for cheap engagement rings feels in the opposite direction of the peer pressure put on us by society to propose up the eiffel tower, on a tropical beach or the most expensive restaurant in town.
However, what most people want, in terms of a proposal, is something personal and meaningful to the intimate bond the two of you share. Indeed, jumping on the bandwagon of proposing around Valentine’s Day might be in the opposite direction to what people want – as a proposal should be personal, intimate and sacred… not sat in a restaurant on the busiest night of the year, crammed in with other couples, all aware of each other’s conversation – indeed, at times it can almost feel competitive.
A proposal should not be generic; it should be tailored to your relationship and meaningful to the bond you share. Whether that’s going back on your first ever date… creating a pamper evening with products from https://www.lush.com and slipping the ring on her finger whilst giving her a gentle massage… cooking her favourite meal and eating it outdoors under the stars… or leading her to her favourite beach, blindfolded, where you have a campfire and picnic waiting.
Essentially, if you have plans to propose to your partner on Valentine’s Night in some fancy restaurant thinking that just because you have an expensive engagement ring, it will sweep her off her feet, then it might be worth having a rethink.
Your proposal might be much better received in a more intimate setting where you’ve truly paid attention to your partner’s tastes, preferences and interests; by coming up with something unique and imaginative that is tailored to the journey of your relationship to date.